Specialising in intercultural marriages & cross-cultural identity

You have built your life across cultures.
On some days, it can feel like the most remarkable thing.
On other days, it can feel the most exhausting.
You do not have to keep making sense of it by yourself.

Based in Vienna. Wherever you are, I am here for you — in person or online.

If you have been feeling unseen and worn out or are unsure whether your situation can improve, this is where the conversation begins. I am a licensed systemic psychotherapist specialising in intercultural marriages and relationships, as well as the identity challenges faced by adults who grew up between two cultures.

Psychotherapy

Who I Work With

Some people arrive carrying the weight of a cross-cultural relationship that has become more difficult than they ever imagined. Others come because they love each other yet keep finding themselves in the same painful place. For others, the struggle is quieter — a lifelong question of identity and belonging after growing up between cultures.

How I Work

When you choose to work with me, you remain at the centre of my work. I bring a genuine curiosity about your world, alongside the experience to help us make sense of what feels confusing or stuck. Together, we work toward the life you want to create and the relationships you wish to nurture.

Fees and Practicalities

Practical questions matter too: what a session costs, how scheduling works, and what happens if you need to cancel. I offer individual, couple, and, if necessary, family sessions in Vienna or online, with the frequency entirely led by you.

The way to free your feelings is to simply feel them

– Shaeri Richards

For those who carry two worlds

I am Paul Chifofoma. If you have found this page, I suspect you love deeply and have been carrying something for a while — a marriage between two cultures that has grown harder than you expected, the weight of navigating it mostly on your own, or a lifelong question of where you truly belong after growing up between worlds that shaped you differently.

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed;

it means the damage no longer controls us

– Akshay Dubey

Resources & Ongoing Support

There are some ideas that we move on from and others that quietly stay with us. We find ourselves returning to them months or even years later, discovering that they speak to us differently because we have changed. Reflection often works in this way. It does not follow a timetable, and it rarely happens all at once.

This page brings together a growing collection of reflections, guides, and recordings that explore the questions, themes, and patterns that many of us encounter at different stages of life. You may find something that speaks directly to your current situation. Alternatively, you may encounter an idea that only begins to make sense after sufficient time has elapsed. This is also part of the process.

You can’t effect the cards that you are dealt,

but you can determine how you play them.

– Milton H. Erickson

Blog

Can my Partner Change for the Better?

Can my Partner Change for the Better?

“Not always in the way we expect”, came my reply. “But yes. People change.” People can change for the better. A relationship that seems destined to fail can be revived. A marriage that is on the rocks can be rescued and thrive afterwards

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